This week I have a guest blogger: Michelle Braden is the founder of MSBCoach in Virginia and is a remarkable leader and an inspiring business coach.
Written by Michelle Braden:

Something that I have often found amusing regarding human behavior is our tendency to find something we like and then overuse it. A good example of how this happens is with music. There is a great song, the radio station picks it up and proceeds to play it about a million times a day. Before you know it, you do not like the song anymore or it loses its appeal. Unfortunately, we see this happen in business trends as well. A word that has become very popular and almost overused in the business and leadership realm is “authentic”.
In the last year authentic has become a “posh” word used in connection with leadership. I must admit, I use it a lot. I love the word “authentic”. It is all over our website, in fact, our annual conference is the “Authentic Leadership Summit“.
When you look up the word authentic, you see words like:
- bona fide
- reliable
- unquestionable
- worthy of belief
- genuine
- and the list goes on…
These are traits that I want to emulate as a leader. My guess is you do too; otherwise, I doubt you would be reading this blog. I am convicted every time I use the word “authentic”. I want to ensure it carries the “sacred” meaning that should be attributed to it. I do not want to throw it around as a careless, popular adjective next to the word leader.
The challenge is not whether or not we want to be “authentic”. I believe the challenge is in how we apply being authentic and living it every day in all aspects of our lives. If you are asking, “what do you mean” then I suspect you do not have children. I am kidding of course; however, going through challenging situations, such as raising children or leading an organization through a merger will squeeze you to discover what you are really made of.
There is so much good Information out on authentic leadership that I will not dare to compete with it; however, I have found a few things that have helped me and maybe they will help you as well – I feel confident #1 will:
1. Read, ask and learn all you can from books, coaches, mentors and friends and then sift through all the information to figure out what works for you. It is important that you learn from others, but in the end, you figure out if it applies to you or not.
2. Identify your personal five values. You can do this by:
- reflecting on what is important to you
- asking how you want to be remembered as a leader
- asking what would you like for your children or significant other to say about you when talking to their friends
- knowing and understanding your hot buttons
- When you identify these areas, you will begin to unfold your own values.
3. Keep it real – what I mean by this is, work on yourself as a person and a leader but do not try to make yourself someone else. There have been many great leaders in the world that you can learn from, but you will never be them. I read a book titled, “The Enemy Called Average” several years ago. The author made a statement I will never forget, “We are all born originals, but most of us die carbon copies”. Be the best original you were created to be.
4. To improve your authenticity in leadership, pick one thing to develop at a time. Often leaders are over-achievers, I know, I am one myself. As an over-achiever, you will probably want to pick several things to work on; however, I encourage you to pick only one. Choosing one thing will help you have focus. A Hebrew proverb says, “finishing is better than starting”.
5. Practice self-observation activities. Once you pick the one item you are going to work on you can begin to observe yourself. For example, let’s say you chose to develop better listening skills. You begin observing yourself, watching for situations where you are not practicing good listening. Do not do anything just begin to take notes. After a few weeks, review your notes. You will see patterns emerge. Your goal is to become self-aware. When your “normal” pattern of poor listening arises, your self-awareness will kick in and you will practice to create a “new normal”. In this case, it is full, undivided listening. As with anything new, it will take practice. Nevertheless, if you continue to practice it will become a part of who you are.
There are other things I could add to this list; however, I would like to hear from you. What have you done or what are you doing to develop yourself as an authentic leader? I look forward to learning from all of you.
As the founder and CEO of MSBCoach and the Emerging Executive Leader’s Program, Michelle has coached and trained business owners, executives, non-profit leaders, teams, managers and individuals in transition for over 17 years. She is an advanced certified human behavior consultant, certified business coach and facilitator of GET CLIENTS NOW! As adjunct faculty at Piedmont Community College, she teaches leadership development and high performance team building. She is a freelance writer for The Business Networker and has a column in Forward VA Magazine titled “Ask Coach Michelle”.